Single Parent Dreams v Reality: The Weekend

SINGLE PARENTING TIPS

Like many kids with divorced parents, Flea spends alternate weekends with her Dad.

Although she doesn’t sleep over at his place, she’s out of the house from 10am to around 7 or 8pm, giving me LOADS of free time. Single parenting can be tough sometimes, but all that free time? It’s a dizzying possibility.

In the early days, weekends without your child seem terrifying. What will I do without my baby? What if she needs me? I feel so useless and alone, you think, while mentally calculating how many glasses of Bailey’s are left in that bottle.

Then it happens.

Sanity sets in and you realise that this is your golden opportunity to enjoy all the things you can’t do when you’re in charge of small people. Reading books, watching box sets, eating toast for every meal. Going to the pool or the gym, gardening, long walks with the dog. Naps. I dreamed about long, relaxing naps.

If only that was what actually happens.

SINGLE PARENTING DREAM VERSUS REALITY

This weekend was Flea’s weekend with her Dad. And what did I do with my 18 hours of freedom?

Well, I didn’t read books and take long, leisurely swims, for starters.

I roped in my brother to help me move office furniture. We’re moving offices in September and in the meantime, the office furniture needed to be loaded into my car, and transported to the house.

To accommodate the office furniture, we needed to move two storage units from the dining room to Flea’s playroom. On the second floor. SECOND. Ugh.

After that I had to do the laundry, walk the dog, write some blog posts, schedule a bunch of social media updates on work accounts.

Sunday might be the day of rest, but didn’t feel like it. There was laundry to do, a pile of dishes to wash, some more work to squish in. Then I drove to my parents for lunch, and by the time I got home, there was just time to edit a couple of videos, and Flea was home.

As I’ve got older, I’ve realised a child-free weekend isn’t a weekend off when you’re a single parent. It’s just time to do all the parenting you can’t do while you’re actually caring for your child. It’s my own choice, of course. I just need to be better at protecting that me-time, and saying ‘no’ to other obligations.

Fellow single parents, please tell me I’m not the only one who never seems to get a weekend off?

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Sally is a full-time blogger and founder of the Tots100, Trips100, Foodies100 and HIBS100 communities, along with the MAD Blog Awards. She spends a bit too much time on the Internet. She's also a very happy Mum to Flea, the world's coolest ten year old.

4 Comments

  1. 28th May 2017 / 8:53 pm

    I’m not a single parent but I totally relate to this anyway. I have the children virtually all the time, but my husband has started to take them out for the day every now and then when I’ve got loads to do. I’m always determined to fit in some me time during that day as well but I don’t think I’ve ever done it.
    Nat.x
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    • 29th May 2017 / 11:47 am

      I think we all just forget how much STUFF there is to do. I need to be better at ignoring my to-do list!

  2. 28th May 2017 / 10:14 pm

    Then again, you could have a partner who acts as though you are a single parent, bit doesn’t actually take the children all to himself at any point, so you end up doing all the parenting all the time and still never have any time off… The grass is always greener, as they say! Maybe you’re just wiser and made a better move?!
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    • 29th May 2017 / 11:47 am

      Not sure quite how to respond to that one, but obviously hope things look up for you soon x

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